Weekend Details

Everything you need to know about an EE weekend is answered here. Chances are, you won’t read through all the answers now – just remember they’re here. But before you register, make sure you read the top 3 questions. They’re important.

Engaged Encounter is a program designed to give each couple an opportunity to discuss honestly with each other, in a face-to-face manner, their strengths and weaknesses, desires, ambitions, goals, their attitudes about money, sex, family, their role in the church and in society. The couples are urged to communicate in terms of planning a marriage, not only as a wedding day celebration, but as a lifelong commitment to each other.

Please visit our online registration page to view the costs for any particular weekend. The fee to attend an Engaged Encounter weekend covers all materials used on the weekend, meals and facility costs. This amount must be prepaid. VISA, Master Card or American Express are the methods of payment, processed securely through PayPal. $150 of the registration fee is non-refundable. No refunds are provided to cancellation requests within 30 days of the registered weekend.

If you cannot afford the cost of the Engaged Encounter weekend due to financial hardship, please contact our registration couple at sfcatholicengagedencounter@gmail.com to inquire about our scholarship program.

Immediately! The retreats are often booked 2-3 months out. We can place you on a wait list if you cannot be scheduled one month or more before your wedding, but cannot guarantee space. We try our best to accommodate deploying servicemen/women.

YES, it is very important that you stay for the entire retreat. If you arrive late or leave early, you will miss important parts of the retreat experience, and we will not be able to give you your certificate of completion of the retreat.

Although the weekend is designed for couples planning to be married in the Catholic Church, it is open to all couples of any faith.  It has been found to be both beneficial and supporting for couples from other faith and differing faith backgrounds.

Please be sure to bring the following items with you:

  • Comfortable casual clothing/Layers
  • Toiletries, medicines and other personal items
  • Any snack or drink items for your own personal consumption

In accordance with Vallombrosa Retreat Center’s guidelines, you will share a room with
another person of the same gender. Each room has a private bathroom/shower. Linens, blankets, bath towels and pillows are provided in each room. There are NO HAIR DRYERS in the facility. Remember to separate your toiletries from those of your fiancé.

A team of married couples and often a priest facilitate and guide the weekend. The team consists of couples with well prepared, consistent and balanced presentations. The presentations involve personal sharing on marriage and family issues.

The weekend goes from 7am Saturday to noon on Sunday. Your break times are during meals, so come well rested.


Please have breakfast before you arrive on Saturday morning. There will be two meals
on Saturday, (lunch and dinner) and a full breakfast on Sunday. Coffee, tea and water will be available throughout the day. Please bring your preferred snacks and beverages for your own consumption. NO alcoholic beverages, please.

At this time, we are unable to accommodate special dietary restrictions. Please feel free to bring a few personal food choices if you are concerned.

Smoking is permitted in designated areas only.

Unfortunately children of any age are not allowed to attend the Engaged Encounter weekend.

The location for each weekend is shown on the Register page.

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